It’s been a long time since I’ve done it.
Given myself permission to wholeheartedly let go and reconnect with myself, my passions and my core desires.
Why has it been so long? Oh probably because I’ve been in stealth startup mode for the past two years. Willing a business into existence. Traveling across the country on a mission. Writing copy like a crazy woman. Watching YouTube videos on how to Photoshop like a badass. Sharpening my social media ninja skills. Climbing over roadblocks. Negotiating. Reading about trademarks. Researching the industry, asking questions, and learning, learning, learning.
Yeah, it’s been busy. And, truthfully, I’ve reveled in every glorious minute of it. Turns out this ‘being in charge of my own destiny’ is totally my thing.
And there’s still so much to do. There is still so much opportunity ahead. The possibilities are palpable, and sometimes, it feels completely overwhelming.
We get to that place so easily – the ‘there’s so much to do’ space in our heads. When slowing down seems almost irresponsible and when exhaustion gets categorized as a victory because it means we’re doing something. Filling our days. Seizing the moments. Pushing our limits. Enabling our connection to things, people, technology and tasks… because that’s how we get stuff done.
But what if it’s not the only option? What if there is a different way to tackle the overwhelming feeling of making choices, nurturing relationships, creating stuff and doing what we love?
And (insert lightning bolt to my heart) what if being deeply invested and madly in love with something – or someone – is perhaps the greatest reason why we need to step away from it?
Yes, the pause – the coming up for air – may be our truest path to revealing how much we truly LOVE it. Crave it. Deserve it. Belong to it.
My friend Jonathan Fields writes about ‘Embracing the Space,’ explaining:
“Life’s not about getting stuff done, it’s about getting the right stuff done. It doesn’t matter how productive you are if the ideas you’re building on don’t represent the best you have to offer. And the best you have to offer rarely ever comes when you’re filling every nook and cranny of mind-space, every waking moment of every day. Genius comes when you disconnect from tasks and reconnect to source.”
And that’s just what I did.
Turns out that letting go was actually the only way I was ever going to truly expand.
I gave myself permission to step back, reconnect with my source, admire what I had helped create and then ask myself, “Do I still I love it? Am I still all in?”
And wow, it’s scary sometimes, being honest with ourselves about what we need to be fulfilled and truly alive. It’s even harder when we realize it’s going to require change, big conversations and lifestyle shifts.
And yet, the clarity and beauty within the pause is the opportunity to be ALL IN.
To know it, see it, double-down and do something about it.
I’ve had an army of people surrounding me – encouraging me to slow down and take a breathe, but at the end of the day, it came down to a choice I had to make.
What is the legacy I want to leave my children?
How can I serve as many lives as possible with the gifts that I inherently possess?
At the end of the day, the only person who can give us permission to do the things that matter, live the life we want and chase the dreams that are meant for us, is ourselves. It is radical and unapologetic self-care. I need to practice it more. We, as a society, need to practice it more.
This note comes to you after spending a week in Costa Rica on retreat with Jonathan Fields and the Good Life Project – an incredible community built to inspire people to create an extraordinary life, deeper relationships and meaningful bodies of work, businesses and movements.
And here’s the good news. It’s working.
For what it’s worth, I am more aligned and in love with Fellow Flowers than ever before. Though, there will be noticeable shifts in how we nurture and grow this community and conversation. In the beginning, I fell in love with the idea of connecting and empowering women through shared experiences, stories and celebrations. THAT is what lights me up. THAT is my home. THAT is when I’m all in. We are more ‘movement’ and less ‘company’ and I like it that way. And when we do our work from a place of authentic self-expression, the business follows… and it feels good. It feels pure.
And we know that is what you want from us too. Epic win-win.
So expect more of that. Like, ten-fold.
Now, I leave you with this simple request. Sometime this week – even if it’s just for a minute – give yourself permission to pause. Take a moment to feel your feet on the ground, the breath in your lungs, the love in your heart and the dreams in your head. And squeeze as much gratitude out of that moment as you can.
Write back and tell me about it – how it felt to pause, if just for a moment. I can’t wait to hear about it.
With gratitude, clarity and very full heart,
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